Dress Code: Cocktail Attire

Knowing the rules of the dress code is important to feel appropriate and comfortable. Being dressed according to the event you are attending shows that you know the rules of etiquette, respect yourself and others and most importantly, knowing that you look good boosts your confidence, so that you can concentrate on enjoying yourself and making new friends and contacts. And this is what the cocktail parties are all about – mingling, networking and having a good time.

Cocktail parties are very popular and modern way of entertaining. During cocktail parties a variety of mixed drinks and finger foods or light snacks are served. Cocktail parties usually last no more than 4 hours, before dinner time and the main focus is generally on cocktails, good conversation, networking and atmosphere as a whole, but not on the food.

Before deciding what to wear for the cocktail party you need to make sure if the event is formal or informal. Considering these three main things will help you:

How knowing these things will help you decide on the appropriate outfit?

If the cocktail party is taking place at your friends house and the reason is housewarming or promotion, than it is more casual event than the charity raising organized in a high-class establishment.

Parties which are held during evening hours are always more formal than those during afternoon.

One more thing that will help you decide whether the cocktail party you are invited to is a formal or more informal event is the invitation itself. If you are invited over the phone or email, then it is more casual event and if you’ve found invitation in your mail, be prepared for formal evening.

And the last thing you need to consider before choosing your cocktail party outfit is the season when event will take place. During warmer seasons such as spring and summer you are expected to choose your attire in lighter fabrics and colourful patterns and during fall and winter season go for dark colours and thick materials.

Formal Cocktail Attire

Cocktail attire for women is an elegant short dress usually dark in color that is above, at or below the knee length. If you are uncertain, a basic “little black dress” is always a safe choice and will work almost anywhere.

By the way, according to Wikipedia Christian Dior was the first to use the term “cocktail dress” to refer to early evening wear, in the late 1940s.

Informal Cocktail Attire

Dress is always a good choice for any cocktail party, but for women there are other options too. Depending on the event a nice pair of pants or a skirt and an elegant top with elegant accessories acceptable.

The important part of staying in theme with your cocktail dress is to keep the look elegant and reserved, not over-the-top.

Formal Cocktail Attire

When you receive a formal invitation, there can be special requirements to the dress code such as ’semiformal’ or ‘black tie optional’. Semi-formal means a dark suit and black tie optional is tuxedo or dark suit and a formal tie.

Informal Cocktail Attire

A casual suit or well-ironed pants and a crisp buttoned shirt and tie will suffice as cocktail attire for guys on most occasions. But it is always better to have jacket with you in case you see that other men wearing it.

Make sure that your cocktail attire is accessorized with a good leather belt and well-polished shoes.

In cocktail attire dress code wearing sneakers, athletic socks, jeans or shorts is strictly forbidden.

No matter what dress or suite you will choose to wear during your next cocktail party, the main thing to remember is the attitude, as long as you feel comfortable in what you are wearing and confident about yourself, everything else will just fall into place. Have a great time and don’t over load yourself with those delicious cocktails, you don’t want it to be your last cocktail party, right?

Julia is the co-founder of Etiquette Tips – an online magazine that features articles on business etiquette, communication, dress code, table manners, international code of behaviour, gift giving, events & celebrations and more.

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Ugh, dress codes. They’re the worst, am I right? Nothing sucks the fun out of getting ready to attend a wedding quicker than some obscure dress code printed on the invitation. No matter how many events we attend, it seems like we’re always second guessing what the terms “semi-formal,” “business casual” and “cocktail attire” really mean. And while we usually subscribe to the rule that it’s always better to be overdressed than to be underdressed, it’s also super uncomfortable showing up somewhere in a gown when everyone else is wearing jeans and a T. So we did a little hard research.

While whoever came up with the term “dressy casual” should totally be fired — hello, aren’t those two opposing terms? — there are actually specific expectations behind some of the most confusing dress code suggestions.

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Because it’s already hard enough to shop for the perfect ensemble as it is when you do understand the attire suggestions, we went ahead and decoded some of the most common dress codes for you. Whether your new job suggests that employees dress in business casual attire, or you receive a wedding invitation that says “black tie optional,” we’ve got you covered.

Picking out an outfit should be fun, not stressful.

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Dress code: Black tie

This is crystal clear for men—wear a tuxedo. It’s a little more complicated for women, who can technically wear anything from a long dress to dressy separates to a formal cocktail dress. The best way to figure out what to wear is to dress according to what you expect the host to wear. Attending a high-end wedding? Then wear a gown. If, on the other hand, you’re going to a work function that calls for black tie, it’s more appropriate to wear a little black dress with a statement jewelry.

Foolproof Outfit: A long gown for women and a black tuxedo for men.

Dress code: Black tie optional

One of the murkier dress codes, men are given the option of either wearing a tuxedo or a dark suit and a tie. Because men are given the option of dressing in a more casual manner, the dress code is more open for women too, who can wear anything from a long dress to a cocktail number. Think of it like this: You aren’t expected to look as if you’re en route the Oscars, but you should still make an effort with formal attire.

Foolproof Outfit: An ankle-grazing dress and statement jewelry for women and a black suit with a bow tie for men.

Dress code: Creative black tie

“Creative black tie” is the dress code that allows you to have fun. Men, for instance, should feel free to wear a black shirt or a red bow tie—something other than the cookie-cutter penguin suit. Women are similarly encouraged to take their look less seriously. Still confused? Think of creative black tie as trendy black tie. Oftentimes, creative black tie is the expectation at theme parties with a dress code like “1920s Black Tie” or “Texas Black Tie”, and in those cases, choose a dressy look that works with the theme. For instance, with a dress code that calls for Texas Black Tie, a man would be dressed appropriately in a tuxedo, bolo tie, and cowboy boots, and a woman could wear a gown and a cowboy hat.

Foolproof Outfit: A formal-but-trendy gown for women and a tuxedo with a black shirt for men.

Dress code: Cocktail

For guys, this dress code calls for a dark suit with a tie. For women, short dresses that are party-ready. When in doubt, wear a little black dress and dress it up with fun jewelry—or, if you’d rather wear color, opt for something bright and feminine.

Foolproof Outfit: A LBD for women and a suit and tie for men.

Dress code: Festive

A dress code that tends to pop up on invitations around the holidays, festive attire is similar to cocktail attire, but with a holiday bent—say a sparkly sequin dress or a red satin skirt.

Foolproof Outfit: A sequin party dress for women and a suit and holiday-themed tie for men.

Dress code: Business formal

The dress code suggestion at many daytime semi-formal events (particularly work lunches and conferences), this dress code calls for a suit and tie for the guys and a tailored dress or a pantsuit for women. The idea is to wear something business appropriate that also feels dressed-up.

Foolproof Outfit: A pantsuit for women and a suit and tie for men.

Dress code: Business casual

Most corporate offices have a dress code that calls for business casual. For women, pants and a blazer, or a pencil skirt and a fun blouse is the way to go. Guys can wears slacks or chinos and a collared shirt. Absolutely no jeans or sneakers.

Foolproof Outfit: Black trousers and a tweed blazer for women and khaki pants and a collared shirt (tucked in) for men.

Dress code: Casual dressy

This dress code calls for a just slightly dressier version of your most casual look. For women, dress up your go-to pair of pants with a fun pair of ankle boots, add heels to elevate flared jeans, or pair a jumpsuit with a collared shirt. For guys, dress up your favorite pair of jeans with a blazer and you’ll be good to go.

Foolproof Outfit: Black pants, a blouse, and ankle boots for women, and jeans and a sport coat for men.

Dress code: Casual

Anything goes in this case, including jeans and sneakers, and this dress code usually means you’ll be uncomfortable in anything too dressy.

Foolproof Outfit: Jeans and sneakers for men and women.

Cocktail Attire For Men – Dress Code Guide For Weddings, Parties & Events

When you receive an invitation nowadays, it may read Cocktail Attire, Black Tie Optional, or Formal, but what exactly does that mean? Back in the day, things were simpler: The Dress code was either Black Tie for less formal evening occasions and White Tie for more formal ones. The women’s dresses were chosen accordingly. Today, for many men the tuxedo is the most formal garment they will ever wear, and even then it is just rented. In the following, I want to explain what Cocktail Attire For Men is all about and what options you have for weddings, parties or events when you receive an invitation that asks for it.

Video – Cocktail Attire For Men

If the invitation asks for Cocktail Attire, men should wear:

1. dark to mid-gray suit
2. dress shirt in white or a muted color
3. necktie in subtle patterns or plains
4. pocket square
5. black dress shoes with leather sole
6. Over the Calf Socks that match the trousers or something else in your outfit
7. Of course make sure you are clean shaven and you have a proper hair cut
8. Do NOT wear your tuxedo, that would be overdressed.
9. For weddings: remember, this is the bride & groom’s day, so leave your pinstripe suit, bright colored ties, and flashy accessories at home – the couple should be the center of attention, not you.

Cocktail Attire For Men at a Wedding

Suit for Weddings, Cocktail Parties & Events

Interestingly, most women understand the attire required for such an event due to the aptly named, short cocktail dress (often black), whereas men generally do not have a clue as to what attire they should wear to a cocktail party. Of course, these are general wedding instructions that will be appropriate in 95% of all weddings. If the bridegroom is a flamboyant artist or someone who wears shorts and t-shirt, no matter what, try to adjust your outfit so you will not be completely out of place: For an artist wedding, go with more colorful accessories and for a completely informal wedding, skip the tie and just wear a combination with a dark jacket and lighter colored slacks – again, it is their day so you should try not to catch much attention with your outfit.

What to Wear To a Cocktail Party?

Cocktail parties are supposed to be relaxed occasions, and although not wrong per se, a classic navy or charcoal business suit is probably a tad too formal. During the winter, you can wear flannel, with patterns, maybe a bow tie. Be more daring than with your business wardrobe and pay attention to accessories such as cuff links, tie bars, pocket squares, boutonnieres… but don’t overdo it and only use two accents at the most.

Madder Silk Bow Tie in Purple with Paisley

White Linen Pocket Square

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During the warmer months of the year, you can go with lighter colors, such as the light blue linen sport coat below. To learn more about summer sport coats, click here.

A knit tie in a two tone color is perfect because it is casual yet unusual.

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A lapel flower boutonniere makes your outfit special & fun.

For a selection of boutonnieres, click here.

The following fashion illustration is from 1936 and shows us a nice mix of cocktail attire for men that would be perfectly adequate today. This illustration clearly shows the evolution of women’s dress since the 30’s, since these women are wearing hats and suits that were then considered everyday attire rather than business wear. If the party is during the day or in the afternoon, you can add more color and patterns to your outfit, although the basics mentioned in the list above apply here as well. In the evening, you can wear darker suits, fewer patterns, and more muted colors. Below: you will find a bunch of different examples of cocktail attire for parties.

Cocktail Party Suits

The Stroller With Striped Trousers for Formal Day Event

Let’s start on the very left with the gentleman in the stroller. He leans by the fireplace, talking to the lady in red. Of course, this is an illustration, but note how neatly his coat fits around the collar, shoulders and cuffs. There are neither gaps nor excess shirt cuff fabric to be seen. His stroller jacket is the typical single breasted, peaked lapel style with two buttons and jetted pockets. Instead of a pocket square, he opted for a red carnation that goes well with his buff waistcoat, white shirt and light blue tie. His trousers are striped but instead of the more common cashmere stripe, a special stripe for morning wear that does not really have anything to do with cashmere, he chose a wide stripe in black and white. This cocktail outfit used to be particularly popular for wear on Sunday afternoons and was often seen at the smartest cocktail bars. Today, the stroller is definitely the most formal of all the cocktail suits yet different than another flannel blazer combination or a navy suit.

Windowpane Overplaid Sharkskin Suit – Great For Most Cocktail Parties

One of the highlights in this illustration is certainly the suit in the middle, featuring a large rust brown subdued windowpane overplaid on a grey sharkskin suit. Worn as a 3-piece suit with an ivory colored shirt and navy-red club tie, the proportions of this suit are very moderate. It has a normal lapel width and gorge, round quarters and a fairly long jacket. In my opinion, windowpane suits are one of the most underrated outfits in menswear and hence, they are an ideal chance for you to differentiate yourself without being overly loud. As a general rule, you should keep in mind that the more patterns and colors (other than navy and grey) you have in your outfit, the less formal it will be. All of the suits shown here would be appropriate attire for 95% of cocktail parties.

Blue Cornflower Boutonniere Buttonhole Flower Silk Fort Belvedere

Orange Golden Fritillaria Silk Boutonniere Buttonhole Flower Fort Belvedere

Edelweiss Boutonniere Buttonhole Flower Fort Belvedere

Wide Stripe Worsted Flannel Suit – An Option for Evening Events

On the very right, we have a gentleman in a suit with yet another large pattern: the wide-spaced colored stripe. The red stripes inspired the rest of his dress, choosing a red boutonniere and Bordeaux tie. This three-piece flannel suit with stripes benefits from the peaked lapels, which provide a little more formality. If the lady in blue were to step aside, you would see that the trousers of this suit are without cuffs, which raises the formality bar by another notch.

Striped Worsted Flannel

In combination with a white crisp shirt collar, this outfit would be almost bank appropriate, expect for the wide colored stripes.

Nevertheless, I think it is a fantastic stripe and hence I wanted to provide you with a picture of an authentic cloth sample. As you can see, the stripe is more subdued than in the illustration, which makes it even more appropriate for a cocktail suit that is different yet elegant.

Conclusion

At a wedding, try to be properly dressed without being too flashy and always keep the bride and groom in mind. For cocktail parties and receptions, leave your business navies and grays in the closet and add a splash of color. If you have a vest – even a contrasting one – wear it if it pairs well with the suit. I hope I provided you with some food for thought for cocktail attire for your next reception – have fun and enjoy company and drinks! For a recap, watch the video Cocktail Attire For Men.

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Hope you are doing great! Absolutely amazing videos, so much to learn. I would like to know what should be the attire for the groom on a cocktail party ? It would be great if you could write back to me. I am the bride and I am planning to make a surprise suit for me on that day.

Look forward to hear back from you soon.

Dear Raphael I need your advice.

I live in Venezuela, in this country wearing suits or jackets (even the sport ones) it is not very common, I’ll get to the point, this weekend is my brother’s wedding, it’s not going to be a huge fancy wedding but we were told to go formal, for us here, formal means suit, the tux is only for the groom, the thing is, I have a dark gray jacket that I’d like to use with a back vest, black pants and a white dress shirt with back tie (I don’t have a black suit and to be honest neither have the money to get one right now) the thing is, my friends keep telling me to not to use a white shirt with back tie because that’s what waiters use here. So would it be ok to use it anyway? or what other color shirt would you advice me to use?

Waiting for your reply.

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Cocktail Attire for Men (Your Guide to Wearing it With Style)

When it comes to evening social events, cocktail attire is often the go-to dress code. Equal parts elegant and effortless, this fashionable style blends formality with personality. So, while you can’t get away with just throwing on your usual black tux, you can get creative. Still not sure what exactly to wear? Let this guide to cocktail attire for men show you how to dress stylishly for this standard dress code. From picking the perfect suit to enhancing it with the ideal accessories, this is how dapper gents do it.

What is Cocktail Attire for Men?

Cocktail attire is a semi-formal style of dress for both men and women. Conceived in the ‘20s and ‘30s, this dress code has since become a regular stipulation for many evening social functions. Today, dressing for cocktail attire requires a blend of formality and modernity. So, while a suit is a general requirement, choosing one that is contemporary and fashionable is the trick to pulling off this code in style. As such, an event featuring this attire is the perfect chance to dress up and look sleek while embracing your unique style.

Men’s Cocktail Attire

Suiting & Blazers

A wonderfully tailored suit that’s easily adaptable or semi-formal blazers and trousers will complement cocktail looks. Darker suits are the traditional choice when it comes to the cocktail attire, so keep things classic with dusky navies, subdued cobalt and muted greys. Stick to tailored suits that are fitted, but not too tight. Keep blazers figure-hugging, fresh and modern and alter pants to just skim the top of the footwear. Paying tribute to transitional day to night looks, keep cocktail attire adaptable with basic suits. Build up the look with pocket squares and inventive accessories, ensuring they enhance the classicism of your fitted silhouettes.

Recommended Cocktail Attire Suits

Recommended Cocktail Attire Blazers

Fitted dress shirts are in order for cool cocktail attire, and are classic and safe in whites or powder blues. That being said, a modern or brighter patterned button-down shirts can give a new edge to cocktail attire, provided they are not too over the top. Do not fear an introduction of bold patterned shirts for a traditionalist look with a twist. Build on the colour of your suit with complementary shades that will look presentable and well put together.

Recommended Cocktail Attire Shirts

As with all menswear, great shoes ultimately ground cocktail looks and should not be overlooked or underestimated. A traditional round toe leather Oxford is timeless and generally, the shoe of choice for cocktail attire looks. Go for this style in authentic leathers and switch things up with different textures like brogue punch holes. Loafers can also be considered if the event is less formal but keep them relatively classic with colours in brown, navy and black.

Recommended Cocktail Attire Shoes

For quasi-formal occasions, no tie with a few buttons undone is a relaxed, favourable look that transitions excellently well from day to night. This approach is undeniably popular, given it lends a desired effortlessness to cocktail looks. That being said, a slim tie can add dimension to cocktail attire. Try incorporating textured ties, like crocheted or silky versions but with more modern shaping. Do not fear a dash of colour with brighter hues of blues, reds and greens for a youthfulness that is not distasteful or gaudy.

Recommended Cocktail Attire Ties

Pocket Squares

For a classic look that never ages, pocket squares will add depth to cocktail attire, maintaining a gentleman-like sensibility. Consider it an excellent opportunity for personal touches to cocktail looks, so be creative and find interesting colours and prints. Great for that finishing touch to a well-tailored look, a pocket square will ensure a polished and sleek refinement to any look, reaffirming personal style.

Recommended Cocktail Attire Pocket Squares

When deciding on an appropriate belt for a cocktail attire look, stick to the classics. Invest in more expensive pieces that are not overly convoluted and will last for many years and countless occasions. Go for basic shapes in good-quality materials for a look that registers classic, and incorporate belts into unexpected materials for a more contemporary look. Leather and suede are a safe choice and won’t date, meaning they can be worn for years.

Recommended Cocktail Attire Belts

Fragrance & Cologne

Not to be forgotten as a pivotal component to noticeable cocktail looks is a great fragrance and cologne. Cocktail attire needs a great smelling accompaniment and going for a clean, yet memorable scent will add depth to your quasi-formal looks. Keep things simple with minimalist scents that will provide a fresh edge to looks or accompany looks with stronger, potent scents for a grounding element to more basic or traditionalist cocktail attire.

Cocktail Attire for Men

Keep your look clean and classic with a contemporary twist.
Select a tailored suit featuring a dark hue, such as navy, subdued cobalt or muted grey.
Opt for a fitted shirt in a classic colour for a smart style or a bold print for a fashion-forward appearance.
Keep your outfit polished with dress shoes, such as oxfords, brogues or loafers.
Complement your outfit with a bold tie, pocket square or unique accessories.

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What is Cocktail Attire?

Here's how to decipher a party invite dress code that says "cocktail attire"

Question: What is cocktail attire?

Answer: When the dress code on an invitation reads, "cocktail attire," it suggests a dark suit worn with a tie (a navy or charcoal grey suit is best) for men, and a shorter, party-ready dress for women, such as a little black dress or even dressy separates like a skirt and blouse. Cocktail attire is less dressy than "formal" attire, and much more casual than "black tie."

There is a playfulness and festive attitude implied with cocktail attire, which is why you'll often see it on invitations for holiday parties, weddings, receptions, class reunions and anniversary celebrations.

More Ideas For Cocktail Attire For Women

These days, dress codes and attire suggestions aren't nearly as limiting as they once were. Cocktail attire for women can encompass a broad range of looks that of course includes the classic little black dress, a more festive or colorful dress with a print/texture, or a pairing of a top and bottom.

The best way to determine what kind of cocktail attire you should wear is to consider what you think the host might wear, and go from there. If your host is older or rather traditional, go with a look that is more classic—but don't be afraid to have fun with accessories and shoes. If your host is creative and stylish, echo that vibe and wear something trendy like a pair of silky jogger pants, a cashmere turtleneck and pointed-toe pumps.

Different Types of Cocktail Dresses

Cocktail dresses come in many varieties and hemlines now, too. Your only guidelines should be that for a true cocktail party, your hemline should hit below the tips of your fingers when your arms are at rest, and should not go so far as to skim the floor. Knee-length, midi and mini dresses are all acceptable.

The Little Black Cocktail Dress: It can be both timeless and trendy—there's no reason not to have more than one in your closet for a variety of occasions.
The Embellished Cocktail Dress: These dresses tend to be more trend-forward, but they are by far the most playful and festive cocktail dresses.
The Lace Cocktail Dress: Lace dresses are the most feminine and potentially proper style of cocktail dresses—perfect for Easter Sunday, daytime weddings and even date night!
The A-Line Cocktail Dress: We love the flirty, glamorous silhouette of an a-line dress, they can be strapless, cap-sleeved, spaghetti strapped—you name it.
The Long Sleeve Cocktail Dress: This is a trendier, fun style of cocktail dress, but it can also be incredibly elegant in a longer, midi length.
The Strapless Cocktail Dress: If you've got an hourglass figure or shoulders you love to show off, a strapless dress is a dressy, pretty option.

More Ideas For Cocktail Attire For Men

For men, the cocktail attire dress code hasn't changed much in the past few decades. A suit is required, but how you wear it can vary. Our best advice (as mentioned above) is to consider your host and hostess, as well as the venue of the occasion.

A more traditional or older host may prefer that male party guests wear dark suits and ties, and probably a classic solid-color shirt.

If your host(s) is/are younger or more creative by nature, feel free to relax the requirements a bit. Keep the dark suit (and make sure it's expertly tailored to fit you), but feel free to add in a trendier element such as a knit tie, a pocket square, a printed shirt or colorful socks. We suggest wearing lace-up brogues/oxfords or loafers as a rule, and make sure your grooming is up to snuff, too. This is not an occasion to test-drive that whole "sneakers with your suit" look they often promote in magazines, nor is it an occasion to wear a t-shirt under your suit jacket.

When Is Cocktail Attire Usually Required?

Depending on your lifestyle and the stage of life you're in, you may not attend events that require cocktail attire all that often.

Most commonly, cocktail attire is requested at weddings, holiday parties, retirement celebrations, school reunions, anniversary and engagement parties. The key word is of course, party. Cocktail attire is meant to be worn for fun, dressy events that are celebratory in nature.

One more tip to keep in mind? Any time an invitation lacks a dress code (which they so often do in 2016), you're better off being overdressed than underdressed, as a rule. If you have any doubts, reach out to the host or hostess for advice.

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Demystifying the Party Dress Code for Women and Men

“Festive attire.” Seriously, does that mean anything? For those who are confused about appropriate party wear—and who isn’t?—pro style sleuths crack today’s often confusing dress code.

As if figuring out what to wear on the average day weren’t hard enough. Now you’ve got to decipher what looks “casual chic” (. ) for a big event. “Hosts are getting so creative with dress codes that guests are left scratching their heads,” says Derek Guillemette, the director of ready-to-wear for Rent the Runway, a company that rents designer evening wear. “Our personal stylists are bombarded with questions from customers about which styles will fit well and fit within a certain dress code.” And it’s not only women; men are stumped, too. To the rescue: a handy invitationese-to-English dictionary. So you and your other half can rise to any occasion.

Black Tie (a.k.a. Formal)

Translation: Old Hollywood glamour.

Cocktail (a.k.a. Semiformal, After-Five)

Translation: An elegant party dress and a killer pair of heels.

Festive (a.k.a. Holiday Attire, Creative Cocktail, Dress to Impress)

Dressy Resort (a.k.a. Island Chic, Garden Party, Outdoor Wedding)

Translation: Easy, breezy, beautiful.

Business Attire (a.k.a. Office Appropriate, Dress Your Best)

Translation: What you would wear to an important interview. The safe bet: Gravitate toward Wall Street rather than dot-com when it comes to work dinners, company parties, and networking events. That means a simple, neutral suit or a sheath dress. “Look to Jackie O. for inspiration,” says Lockard. This isn’t the time to experiment with trendy cuts or the hot color of the season, though you may want to consider adding texture with a metallic tweed or a variegated bouclé jacket or skirt. Even if your office is casual, spiff up your usual look with a skirt rather than pants, a blouse in place of a tee, and pumps over flats. In this case, it’s okay to carry your everyday bag. For a work holiday party, you can loosen up a bit and introduce a single touch of sparkle or color. But keep your hemline around the knee and your neckline conservative.

Casual Chic (a.k.a. Dressy Casual, Smart Casual, Denim and Diamonds)

Translation: A dress-up/dress-down hybrid.

Come as You Are (a.k.a. Casual)

Translation: No, not really. You’ll need to step it up from yoga pants.

So What Are the Options for “Black Tie Optional”?

When an invitation says a style of dress is “optional” or “preferred,” the host is stating her preference with some wiggle room. “It means ‘This is what I’d like you to wear. So if you have it, wear it—or the next best thing,’ ” says etiquette consultant Mindy Lockard. It doesn’t mean “Go out and buy a new outfit.” Expect a lot of hemlines that hit around the knee at a black tie–optional affair, says event planner Tara Guérard. But if you do go short, the dress should be awards-show fancy. As for men, a dark, dressy suit with a black tie is acceptable in place of a tux.

Get a Clue

If the invitation offers no heads-up on the attire, the surest way to find out is to ask the host what she is wearing. But if you don’t feel comfortable doing so, you’re going to have to play detective.

Puzzle it out with friends who are also going to the party and decide on a dress code that you can all agree on.

If the invitation is engraved, letterpressed, or embossed on nice card stock, the host is probably spending time and money on the event. Acknowledge her efforts with a gown or a cocktail dress. Store-bought cards are trickier to decipher because they vary from extravagant to basic, so search for other possible tip-offs (see below). When dealing with Evites (which are sent even for weddings these days), look for hints in the design and the wording.

If this is an annual event for a charity or an organization, check out what has been photographed and documented online to guesstimate your getup. Religious ceremonies, like Bar Mitzvahs and baptisms, deserve respect with prim and proper attire.

As a general rule, parties after 5 p.m. mean more elegant looks, whereas daytime functions tend to be low-key.

A party taking place at someone’s house will probably be more relaxed than one at a venue. But if it’s at a catering hall or a restaurant, browse the website or take a field trip to gauge its chichi quotient. Outdoor shindigs tend to be less formal than indoor functions. Country-club protocol, however, leans toward sundresses, not jeans.

What Is a Cocktail Dress Code?

A cocktail dress code indicates that you're probably going to have a good time. Lacking the formality -- and occasional stuffiness -- of white and black tie affairs, cocktail-themed events allow you to interject your personality into your look. First, understand the basics about the cocktail dress code. Then, choose an appropriate outfit that allows you to accessorize, add some flair and showcase your personal style.

Investigate the Invitation

Search the event invitation for clues into how you should dress:

Time of year -- Choose seasonal colors for your cocktail party attire. A fall or winter event may call for a dress in jewel-toned hues of amethyst purple or emerald green. A pastel tie is proper for a spring affair. Bright colors celebrate the summer season and are suitable for cocktail events at resorts.

Time of day -- Afternoon events are typically more informal than their evening counterparts. As a result, on the cocktail party spectrum of formality, an afternoon affair would call for more casual fabrics, such as cotton or linen, than an evening event, which may feature satin, silk and chiffon.

Cocktail Couture for Women

Classic cocktail attire for women includes an at- or above-the-knee dress. Naturally, cocktail dresses are the go-to look for women, but this category encompasses a range of looks.

The classic little black dress works well for cocktail dress codes. Choose a dress with some embellishment, such as a jewel-encrusted neckline, for added sparkle for the festive occasion.

Resort cocktail attire includes flowing chiffon dresses that feature feminine, floral prints.

Jewelry can also dress up a basic shift dress and make it cocktail appropriate. A pearl necklace, sparkly chandelier earrings or a crystal bracelet adds an elegant touch to your look.

Choose embellished dresses with intricate details, from a lace hemline to a waistline featuring a sequin-encrusted belt.

Safe Suits for Guys

Suits are a must for a cocktail dress code. Lighter suits, such as navy, are appropriate for afternoon events and resort events. Evening affairs call for gray or black.

Get creative with your shirt and tie combination. Cocktail attire isn't so rigidly formal that you have to stick with white shirts and conservative ties. You may choose a colored shirt, a bold patterned tie or both.

Complete the outfit with a pair of leather shoes that coordinate with your suit. Oxford shoes are a timeless look.

Creative Cocktail Attire

Occasionally, a cocktail dress code will give you even more freedom to showcase your style. Creative cocktail attire, often a part of holiday-themed events, is a festive twist on this dress code.

Women can enhance their classic cocktail party style with pattern mixing, a pair of bright pumps or a statement piece of jewelry. A colorful or patterned clutch enhances your outfit.

Men may ditch their traditional suit coat for a velvet or patterned blazer or may choose a pair of brightly colored socks for a surprise pop of color.

Cocktail Attire For Men? – The Most Popular Dress Codes Explained

So you've been invited to an event such as a wedding, retirement party, inauguration, etc. and down at the bottom you see those words that can make even the most well-dressed man a bit anxious: black-tie, white-tie, semiformal, business, cocktail attire, business casual. Having a specified dress code means having to dress in a very specific way, and it's not always obvious what is meant.

Dress codes have been around for a long time and act as a guide that instructs guests what to wear for the occasion. It's generally looked down upon (and can be quite embarrassing) to break them, so don’t try to improvise with a new creative twist. It’s ok to add a personal touch though, but keep it to a minimum; you don’t want to be remembered as “the neon shirt guy” at your cousin's wedding. Think of the dress code as a guide that will keep you from being under or over dressed compared to the other guests. Sometimes you may not feel totally comfortable with what you're being asked to wear but if it's not followed, the feeling of being out of place could be even worse. The key here is simple: if you get noticed, either you missed the code completely or you nailed it in a memorable way.

What’s important to know is that wearing the proper attire will allow you to blend in with the other guests, which will make for a more enjoyable experience. If you're not completely clear on what is expected, follow these two tips:

1. When in doubt, it’s always fine to directly ask your hosts - they're the ones most interested in avoiding confusion.

Here are some of the different dress codes you might find printed at the bottom of your invite:

Just think of Fred Astaire, how elegant was he? The White Tie" is the most formal dress-code and, if invited, you should feel honored that you enjoy such a flamboyant and sophisticated social life. Typically, White Tie dress codes are reserved for ultra-formal shindigs such as royal events, state dinners, and formal balls. To get it right, bust out your black tailcoat (with silk facings), white wingtip collar shirt (minimal in decoration), white waistcoat, white bow tie and black formal shoes (velvet slippers, and classic or wholecut oxfords in black are acceptable). It's a pretty conservative dress code so there's not much room for innovation and you'd be wise to not try.

The famous tuxedo is the main character here. While the classic tux is as dark as can be, nowadays it’s also accepted in midnight blue. Another variation is a white dinner jacket and black pants, but this is only advisable in warm weather. The traditional attire includes the single breasted tuxedo (with or without silk facings), black cummerbund, black bow tie, white turn-down spread collar shirt (with a pleated front), and black formal shoes such as oxfords.

"Black Tie Optional"

This little cousin of the traditional Black Tie dress code. You can wear your tux but a dark suit with a tie or bow tie is also acceptable; it’s up to you to decide. If you opt for the suit instead of the tux, wear it with a plain white dress shirt, conservative tie, dress socks that match your suit color, and a pair of well-shined shoes such as monk-straps or oxfords.

Note the new relative called Creative Black Tie, which is provides a great opportunity to get wild if you're feeling the part.

The most popular of all the dress codes. It’s still formal but leaves a little more room for creativity. You can sport a cool pattern on your tie and in some cases, colored socks. However, suits and ties should always be in dark hues but never black (unless you're a priest). Bold patterns are not always accepted but a well-fitted windowpane suit can also work really well. Wear them with a pair of well-shined shoes such as brogues, oxfords, or monk-straps.

The least formal of all dress codes allows you to chose whether or not you want to wear a tie. Patterns and textures are welcome, as are button-down shirts and dark jeans (no holes, fading, or effects). If you're afraid of looking too informal, you probably are so tuck in that shirt mister! Classic wool sport fabrics such as tweed and windowpane are always recommended. Make sure to not wear suit jackets as sport jackets, or you will go straight to style hell. As for shoes, feel free to rock your chukka boots, loafers, or brogues (just make sure your belt matches!)

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I was invited to a wedding calling for cocktail attire. Thank you for the clarification!

Is a white long sleeve guayabera with dark khakis considered cocktail attire for a beachside wedding ?

Good solid advice. I’d say these days a suit coat with jeans for business casual is the hip thing.

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BAZAAR Commandments: Your Guide to Cocktail Attire

Deciphering the party season's most ambiguous dress code.

While it may seem like 'cocktail attire' is an empty phrase stamped on every invitation—one that serves no purpose but to make you agonize over the uncertainty of its sartorial meaning—consider it in the context of the event details and it may start to make a bit more sense. Take into account the event purpose, in addition to the time and place. Your best friend's wedding will require very different attire than a corporate event or fashion party. Furthermore, an event taking place at a swanky hotel will call for a dressier outfit than something held at a restaurant around other non-guests/patrons, and definitely more so than a party held at someone's home. Check out the hours, too—evening start times typically suggest a more formal fête than those scheduled earlier in the afternoon or day.

If your host/hostess is known to be old-fashioned or traditional, dress more conservatively than you would if the host were especially avant-garde. Your fashion editor friend will likely have a more relaxed interpretation of cocktail attire than your boyfriend's Republican parents.

Choose an ensemble that is appropriate for the time of year and style it accordingly. A colorful floral number and strappy sandals might be just right for a springtime soirée, while a winter event will likely call for closed-toed shoes and an evening coat. Editor's tip: A touch of fur is ultra-glam for cold-weather months. If it's around the holidays, the dress code tends to open up to include options with a festive bent (think metallics and siren red).

If you're afraid of being overdressed, understand that casual is not its opposite. An minimalist slip dress is an elegant option that won't run the risk of looking overly fancy or informal. Adorn with jewelry and statement accessories for extra glamour—you can always remove and stow them in your purse if need be.

Appropriate lengths fall somewhere between mid-thigh and mid-calf. Save floor-skimming gowns for black tie affairs, and definitely reserve dangerously short minis for nightclubs and bachelorette parties.

In the wise words of Karl Lagerfeld, "One is never over-dressed or under-dressed with a Little Black Dress." That being said, don't feel limited to only black options. Play with color—another element that is best informed by the time of year. For spring, a romantic pink or soft pastel. For summer go bold in something bright. For fall, rich earth tones and warm neutrals. And winter, deep jewel tones in luxe textures like satin or velvet.

Despite what you may see on the red carpet—your upcoming event may not be the appropriate opportunity to test-drive a naked dress. Or, if you're dying to try something out of the ordinary (we understand, it's not every day you get to do this) interpret the trend or look in a way that is a bit more palatable. Try a style with strategically placed sheer insets instead of something entirely see-through, or offset a plunging neckline with long sleeves.

Especially if an event takes place straight after office hours, a sleek blazer and trousers combo is an elegant look that is easy to dress up for evening. Just change your blouse (or remove it altogether) and swap your satchel for a clutch. A jumpsuit is also a great option for similar reasons.

Pick a small purse that will fit the bare essentials and opt for a handheld version like a clutch or diminutive top-handle. Cocktail events are a no-carryall zone.

Remember what Marnie said about Hannah on Girls: "She'll put on a good dress and nice shoes and then do her lipstick, and then leave her forehead shiny. It's like, you've come this far, wash your forehead!" A little light concealer or powder and a swipe of mascara are essential—and we can't stress enough the transformational powers of a good lipstick. If your hair is giving you anxiety, a low chignon is an easy, never-fail option that works for any occasion.

We rarely say this, but consider your comfort level. Parties are as much about the socializing as they are about the style, and if you're not at ease in your ensemble it will affect how enjoyable your evening is.

There is no single blanket statement that can be applied without exception—there's a time and place for everything. For example, a cascading boho maxi for a beachside summer soirée: totally appropriate. A supremely elegant pair of flats for an evening affair: tricky but doable. But showing up to a wedding wearing white, or an upscale cocktail party in jeans and sneakers? Not okay—not now, not ever.

If you're at a total loss, check in with the host/hostess to clarify the appropriate level of dress.

How To Wear The Cocktail Dress Code

What does the cocktail attire and dress code mean? Here’s our guide to decipher the standards and execute your look with style and ease.

Luc Wiesman
14 May, 2016

When someone hands you a cocktail during a night out, you’re most appreciative of the complimentary drink. However, upon receiving a wax-stamped, embossed cream envelope with an invitation inside that reads “cocktail attire”, many a modern gent are left puzzled, rather than pumped, by the chance to dress up a little.

Let’s talk cocktail attire: are suits obligatory? Or are jeans and blazer acceptable today? And, in our sportswear obsessed, luxury world, do clean white sneakers cut it? Wondering what to wear is a common concern. Why, there’s black tie, smart casual and business casual already putting you through your dress code paces. So relax, breathe deep. We’re here to put your mind, and wardrobe, at ease. We’ve debunked the cocktail dress code once and for all. And put a contemporary spin on it.

Definition of Cocktail Attire

Cocktail attire gained popularity in the Twenties and Thirties, when it became common in wealthier, fashionable households to enjoy pre-dinner drinks and canapés in the hours between day and evening. Back then, social events, activities and ostentatious occasions required men to ‘change’ their kit to be more suitably dressed. And, so a new dress code formed.

Essentially, it’s a semi-formal look or outfit that will take you from day to night; bridging the gap between casual day wear, which is too relaxed, and formal evening attire, which is too prim and proper.

In a modern context, the ‘between the hours’ dress code applies to cocktail parties, obviously, but also weddings, anniversaries, formal birthday celebrations and the timeless sporting events such as the races. Basically, where a little more refinement is required, old chap.

Cocktail Attire Do’s & Dont’s

While we’re not ones to set the style rules in stone, we are indeed big on learning the rules. Knowing the guidelines means you’re equipped to bend the rules a little (without looking like a sartorial mess). Appeasing your individual style, and mastering the cocktail manual, here are some do’s and don’ts to follow:

Do go for something tailored. A tuxedo is too much, but a suit or blazer/trousers combo is required.
Don’t upstage the guest of honour. If you’re attending a birthday or any other occasion in which the spotlight is meant to be on someone specific, leave the bright colours and flashy accessories at home.
Do add personal touches, but consider them carefully. You do not want to be remembered as the “neon pink jacket guy” from your friend’s wedding.
Don’t be afraid to ask questions. If you’re ever unsure about what constitutes appropriate attire for an event, ask the person hosting it. They are, after all, the most invested in avoiding confusion and uncomfortable situations.

Still in doubt? It’s always safer to over-dress (but still, leave that tuxedo at home).

Key Cocktail Attire Pieces

The beauty of cocktail attire is that, while it’s a relatively formal dress code, there is still room for creativity and personal interpretation. Here’s what you should be wearing:

Tailoring means the suit: a two piece, peak or notch lapel number in a slim fit. Black is suitable but more contemporary still, is navy or grey. Light grey is fresh for a summer wedding while dark grey is the perfect winter look, and is far more sophisticated.

If you know the dress code isn’t super strict, explore colours (always dark, in this case) such as burgundy, olive green or khaki. Patterns should be kept minimal, sticking to windowpane check (small scale) and pinstripes (never chunky or thick).

Not sure about prints? Opt for texture. This is achieved from suit fabric: mohair for a subtle sheen and herringbone or a slub design for a grainy finish.

Finally, it’s not unexpected to see men wearing separates at cocktail attire events. Mix and match jacket and trousers at your leisure, but traditionalists will frown upon denim, even if they’re the made-to-measure, trouser-esque jeans. Keep your bluey’s for daytime drinks with friends.

Keep the shirt in harmonious tune with your suit or blazer. A block colour in a neutral tone – blue, white or grey – is your safest bet, especially when wearing a checked or striped jacket. Wearing a plain blazer? Look to low-key checks or stripes or even a floral jacquard for a romantic edge. Another chic style is a plain black short – no tie – or white for a summer day time feel.

The biggest blunder made with shirting is the collar. Avoid floppy, limp shirt collar types and make sure it’s made from cotton and in crafted from a formal fabric weave. It should feel and look crisp, and sharply pressed on the collar and cuffs. Speaking of which, avoid French cuffs for daytime events, saving them for dapper evening soirees where you really want to impress.

Ties/Pocket Squares

You can now get away with ditching the tie at less formal cocktail events, but at other times it is still a requirement. This is your opportunity to get a little more creative. If you opted for a simple shirt and suit, you can go for a bolder tie.

If your shirt or suit has a pattern, it’s best to choose a simple tie in a complementary colour. It’s a ‘no’ to bow ties (too novelty looking without the presence of a tux), but a big ‘yes’ to pocket squares. Like the tie, the square should be silk and neutral in colour in your jacket is vivacious or patterned and primped if you’ve gone the monochrome manner of dressing.

Dress Shoes

When thinking cocktail, go the Oxford shoe. Black and dark brown are superior colour options for the streamline shoe, while a brogue punch hole design will give you a step up in the texture department, without offending cocktail purists.

Alternatively, monk strap shoes are fittingly formal and have secured themselves as footwear mainstay. Loafers – from penny to tassel and even horsebit – should be considered only if your event is on the less formal side. Above all, invest in a new pair if it’s a special event or give tired old leather a fresh polish. And be on your way.

Accessories

Saving that embossed, ostrich leather belt for a special occasion? Now’s the time to whip it out. Suede belts are also a nice touch for texture while logo belt buckles like that of Gucci and Hermes are making a comeback, just don’t go for anything cowboy. Eschewing the belt is totally fine too, especially if you’re wearing a waistcoat that obscures the trouser band.

Finally, finish the look off with calf-length socks (long enough so if you’re seated your leg skin doesn’t show). Stick to socks that complement your trousers or another colour in your outfit such as tie, shirt or blazer. If you’re feeling brave, coloured or patterned socks could be an opportunity to let your personality shine through.